Blindfolded

I have never been the long-term relationship type. Its not that I am dead inside or anything, but I tend to do better on my own. I have dated and done my fair share of meeting guys and hooking up, but I haven't met that guy I am willing to settle down for. Timing is also a huge factor for me, personally. The early years of your twenties are meant to be fun and wild, and I enjoy the life that I live and the freedom I have living it. 
I am constantly on the outside looking in to my friends' relationships, because thats what girls do, we talk things out. I have come to realize when girls are really into someone or like them or are in love with them, they tend to develop what I refer to as the blindfold. 
Sometimes when we are in a situation, whether that be a romantic one or not, we can get so wrapped up in it and soon we can't even see the situation for what it really is anymore. Or what it may be turning into. When my friends talk to me about these relationships, whether its to ask me for advice or just simply complain, I find it so odd that they can't see what is sometimes right in front of them. 
I have to remind myself they are unable to see this truth because they are in this situation. As a friend, I am constantly struggling with how I should approach this situation. Do I tell them the way I see it and risk hurting their feelings? Or, do I let them get to this conclusion on their own? 
I love my friends more than anything in this world, but in certain situations I don't think there is such a black and white solution to this problem. I think it depends both on the situation and the person. 
I have been in relationships where I know what I need to do, that I have decisions to make if I want to make a change and be happy again. But even though I knew this for such a long time and my friends constantly told me what I needed to do, it took me forever to act on it because I wasn't ready. 
As I get older and learn more through my own past and my friends' pasts, I try to go into any new situation with open eyes, blindfold-free. It can be hard to control that, feelings and emotions can wrap us up into feeling something we never expected to feel - there is nothing at all wrong with this. 
However, the more open we are to a situation, the easier it will be to walk away from it if it doesn't work out. So, try to take a step back and remove the blindfold. Look at your current situation - or whatever it is that is bogging you down - and try to get a new perspective. If anything, to help yourself!


xo E